I am a very defensive person. If I even perceive attack I immediately go into defense mode.
It was caused by growing up with two rather angry parents.
But, that’s in the past. Whatever caused it, I have to take control and overcome it.
A few days ago I was talking with my boss, and I felt she was going to criticize me so I immediately justified my actions. And she immediately said, “I’m not criticizing, I just want you to be aware this is going on. And I need you to back me up on it.”
I still felt at ready for the attack. And for hours, no days now, after I’m still alternately justifying myself and feeling like I let her down. Neither of which are necessary. When I get up in it I repeat to myself, “I can let this go.”
I was trying to write yesterday and I couldn’t. (It turned out later it was because I had lost interest in the story). So I was just free writing in an open notepad file, and the defensiveness realization came out.
I am not sure how to overcome it quite yet. My life is as always a work in progress.
What types of traits are you holding on to from childhood? Is it hindering your life in anyway? Are you going to try to change?
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